I have been perimenopausal for some time now and so last month when my menses didn’t begin on schedule, I thought, well I must have missed my first period. But nope, that wasn’t it. In reality, my cycle was simply synchronizing with my daughter who was about to give birth.
Very early on Friday last week my daughter called me to say her contractions had begun. Soon after getting that phone call I started very lightly spotting, nearly nothing compared to what I am used to, but still a period.
She had a very long first stage of labor that lasted the entire weekend. Her contractions would come regularly for a while, then stop, then start again. On Saturday, I noticed that every time she would begin contracting again, I would begin cramping and have more flow. Her real, active labor didn’t begin until late Sunday evening, at which time my cramps became more intense and the flow more heavy. I didn’t get a full, “normal” period, though, until she had finally given birth early Monday morning. She released fully, and so did I.
Isn’t that neat?
Having been immersed in the reductionist, scientific world view my whole life, I am still just amazed at the energetic influences we can have on each other in general. In the past, I often have synchronized my cycle with other women I have worked along side of daily. This seems common among women who are in close physical proximity on a regular basis.
But I have to say I am even more amazed at the synchronicity I had with my daughter. Due to work and school schedules, we haven’t really spent a lot of time in the same physical location during her pregnancy. Though we talked on the phone often, weeks would pass without seeing each other. That maternal bond is apparently very, very strong.
But it’s not just mothers and daughters. I remember experiencing the same thing — delayed menses triggered to flow as soon as labor started — when my son’s partner gave birth almost five years ago, though I wasn’t nearly as synchronized with her in more subtle ways such as particular ebb and flow patterns. And I’ll say, too, that this energetic type of influence and communication is also not just mother’s and daughters and menstrual cycles. I’ve had plenty of strange energetic “knowings” regarding my sons also, though none of these were at all related to menses.
So in any case, we’re all synchronized now and we have a beautiful new baby boy! My fourth granchild, Jelani Davis R. I was in the delivery room and helped to birth him. As his sweet little head emerged, he christened me with a nice warm shot of amniotic fluid! Wasn’t that nice of him to make sure I was fully included? lol